Marriage can sometimes follow a bumpy road. This journey is best cushioned by the application of old time values and remedies. If the man is head of his home and his wife submits graciously to his authority, the marriage thrives. Explore with us how this delicate balance is achieved in an old fashioned way.
Any husband has the potential to be a bully. A good husband,
however, is never a bully.
A bully is a
person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. A
husband in authority over his wife and family is certainly in a position to
abuse his position of power. He could easily use his authority to intimidate
his wife and break her down emotionally. He could use his superior physical
strength to cause her bodily harm that cannot be excused as appropriate
domestic discipline. But a man who
understands the responsibility that goes with his marital leadership, power,
and authority will not easily fall into the trap of becoming an abuser.
A husband has
the responsibility to love his wife. All his actions must answer to the
question: Is this an expression of my love for my wife? If the answer is not an
emphatic yes, the husband needs to take a closer look at his motives. A man who
loves his wife will not humiliate her, or injure her, or keep her from being
all that God created her to be. On the contrary, he will make choices that
encourage his wife, that protect her from injury, and that raise her up in the
eye of the public and her family. He will find opportunities to praise her and
nurture her talents. He will take time to give her what she needs.
act out of confidence. Their motive is fear. And they use fear to keep others
from challenging them to become all they can be. A husband who uses fear
tactics to keep his wife submissive is a poor leader, and there is little
chance his marriage will thrive. Bullying a wife into submission may make her
act submissive for a while, but it will drive her heart in the opposite
direction and tear the marriage apart. A husband who desires a submissive wife
must learn to love his wife into submission.