08 July 2012

Spanking Communicates Authority II

In “Spanking Communicates Authority Part I”, we considered the possibility that spanking is a physical form of communication between a husband and a wife. How does the husband spanking his wife’s bare bottom translate into marital communication?

In the traditional marriage, the husband assumes the role of the leader responsible for his marriage and his home. He accepts the authority that comes with the leadership role, and is expected to exercise his authority as the leader. The wife’s role is that of the submissive partner. She chooses to submit to her husband’s authority. She is not worth less as a person, because she submits in marriage. She simply has a different role than her husband has and has taken up the challenge of letting her husband lead.

Many couples start their journey into marriage fully intending to assume their traditional marriage roles. Before too long, they learn that it is difficult and exhausting at times to exercise authority or submit, especially when you don’t feel like doing it. The inconsistency in staying true to the traditional roles causes tensions to develop in the marriage. It does not take long for the build up of tension to challenge the peace in the home and damage the confidence that the couple initially had in the power of traditional marriage roles. The partners may try to remain “in character” through their choice of words, but the constant bickering and relentless arguing will eventually merge their distinct roles into matched generic, neutered roles.

You may be thinking that was a nice collection of sentences, but it doesn’t explain how a spanking can help avoid this disintegration of a marriage. How does a spanking achieve what words cannot?

When a husband defends his words of authority with an act of authority, he emphasizes his authority. Why is that important? The wife’s genuine respect for her husband finds its foundation in her recognition of his authority. A wife who does not truly recognize her husband’s authority in the relationship will not offer heart-felt respect as her gift to him. The more she respects her husband, the easier it becomes for her to submit to him. When a husband boldly spanks his wife, he is reminding her that he has authority over her. The act of spanking is less about punishing or inflicting pain on his wife, and more about communicating his authority over her.

7 comments:

  1. Anonymous10/7/12 11:06

    I agree with couples that practice loving didcipline. I am in a courtship with a loving man. We have decided that spanking will be apart of our traditional marriage.

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  2. sixofthebest4/9/12 06:51

    Excellent written article on what makes and 'old fashioned happy marriage'. I have always believed that the moment a bride sayss "I do", at the altar. The bridegroom has a right to raise his bride's white wedding dress, take down her bloomer's, and spank her bare bottom.

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    1. Thank you, sixofthebest. A husband certainly has the authority to lead in the way he believes is best for his marriage and family. Of course, with that authority comes a truckload of responsibility (which some husbands choose to forget), and that includes the responsibility to exercise that authority with love and wisdom.

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    2. Six of the best you are ignorant to think that once a woman gets married her husband automatically has rights to discipline her. My husband and I don't agree with a man has the right to be in control of his wife. You can even read both our blogs to see that. If my husband had EVER tried that after we were married I'd hit him back and file charges on him and go get a divorce. He even said if it was a law where a man had to discipline his wife he would go to jail. He said he loves me waay to much to ever cause me any kind of physical pain with his hand no matter what I do. In fact you may say I call the shots more. I don't ask permission for anything and I never will. If I wanna hang out with friends and he and I don't have plans I will, I will stay on the Internet as much as I want especially since I help pay that bill, w BOTH share the household chores not just be cook and clean. Majority he cooks. He's a soldier and trust me has a lot more respect for me and he is a real man. I respect him so much more because he loves me soo much and never will cause me any kind of pain. He even said I could beat his ass and he wouldn't hit back. If a woman wants DD that's great but it is NEVER ever a man's right to just discipline her. Good thing I'm not your wife...you'd be hurting cause I'd show you who had the rights.

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  3. I like how you describe spanking as a means to communicate authority. I prefer that to the idea that a husband punishes his wife. Communication is so much better than a negative reward for bad behavior.

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    1. Thanks, Rob1219. Punishment may be an appropriate label from time to time, but for the most part marital spanking is really all about clear communication in a way that gets attention from both the husband and the wife.

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  4. Anonymous5/9/12 17:27

    Modern men are terrified to take the lead in the marriage. I think they are brain washed into thinking women are better leaders.

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