06 July 2012
Marital Spanking is Two-way Communication
Spanking is a way for a husband to communicate his authority in the marriage. When he spanks his wife, he is giving her a physical reminder of his role as head of his home. But what about the wife? If spanking is a powerful form of physical communication, should we think about it as a monologue? Is the husband the only one who is doing the “talking”?
The act of a husband spanking his wife is not a one-way form of communication. Yes, the husband’s hand smacking his wife’s bottom is a wordless statement of his authority in the marriage, but is it more than that. In submitting to, and accepting, the spanking her husband offers, the wife is emphasizing her acceptance of her submissive role in the marriage. Speak to any wife that is spanked in a loving marriage and you will learn that she does not submit to the spanking out of fear. The relationship is not one of a master whipping his slave. The wife who is loved by her husband may hate the spanking, but she will not fear her husband.
Why then, you may ask, does she let her husband lay his hand on her? The quick answer is that the spanking is her gift to her husband, as much as it is his gift to her. Remember that by spanking his wife, the husband emphasizes his authority and make his wife’s challenge (to be submissive to him) a little easier to face. When the husband’s authority is emphasized, it calls out her submission. By taking up the challenge of exercising his authority, the husband is creating an environment that encourages submission in his wife. By offering herself to her husband and not resisting the way he chooses to exercise his authority, the wife encourages the husband to assume responsibility as leader. Her physical act of submission in presenting her bottom to the spanking serves as a bold statement of her submission to her husband. The husband’s recognition of submission in his wife feeds his own confidence as leader. By accepting a spanking without resistance, a wife is giving her husband the gift of her surrender to him.
Spanking in marriage is not a monologue. It is the husband acting out his authority to encourage submission in his wife. It is also the wife acting out her submission in order to encourage bold leadership in her husband. Is marital spanking or domestic discipline a barbaric act of spousal abuse or a small price to pay for a healthy marriage? You decide.