13 September 2012
The Submissive Wife: A Taboo Subject
It not unusual for modern, "liberated" women to omit the part of the old fashioned wedding vow that binds the wife to OBEY her husband. Those courageous women who dare to include this part of the vow are seldom viewed as the courageous, strong women that they are. Instead, more often than not they are perceived as:
(a) Dishonest: They are not truly honorable people as no-one actually expects them to observe that vow and keep their word given at the altar of marriage.
(b) Stupid: These women are unintelligent, weak-minded individuals who have no clue what they are promising to their husbands, and probably deserve a life of enslavement because they clearly cannot think for themselves.
Many women who have embraced the challenge of submitting to their husbands know that it is a life-long journey they have embarked on. You don't wake up the morning after your wedding, or the day after you chose to become submissive, and suddenly submit perfectly. A wife becomes submissive one day at a time. It's a journey, a process, and from time to time the wife will stumble and fall. She is on the high road of marriage, and not everyone manages to stay on this road. It's a long road that winds through the duration of the marriage, and it's rocky and steep at times. It offers rewards along the way that no other path through marriage offers, and it's worth the effort.
What do the women who take this journey look like?
They are as varied in nature, personality, and appearance as the women on other journeys through life. You will see skinny, overweight, and athletic ladies. There will be quiet, shy wives, and bubbly, outgoing wives. Some will be perfectly groomed, and others will be living your bad-hair-day every day. Some will have careers away from the home, and others will be full-time moms. On the surface submissive wives will look like wives across the planet look, but inside they will be a breed of their own. Submissive wives, perhaps not yet perfectly submissive but reaching for that goal, are tough, courageous, tenacious, and willing to learn. They are the kind of ladies who will stand up against the flow of mediocrity and dare to be different. They want something amazing for their marriage and they will make sacrifices to get it. They are willing to surrender their own goals and desires, and adopt those of their husband and leader, to give their marriage the best chance of success. These are not selfish, weak-minded women who huddle in a corner and play the defeated victim. Submissive wives are the Joans-of-Arc of modern marriage, possessing vision (for sharing a marriage that works well), courage (to choose a lifestyle that modern society frowns upon), and the tenacity to keep pushing forward in the submission journey.
If submissive wives are actually the kind of women to be envied, why do so many people choose to pity them? Why is submission such a touchy subject that most people are afraid to talk about? Why do women warn other women against submitting to their husbands? Why do men hide the seriousness of the subject in callous jokes? Why is the concept of a submissive wife brushed from the average home and assigned to those with "marginal lifestyles"? Why won't ministers preach about it if its in the Bible? Why won't parents discuss this aspect of the marriage relationship with their teenagers?
Living a life of submission to your husband threatens many women on the brink of marriage or those who are already married. If this fear is not justified, why does it still persist?