03 July 2012
Spanking as a Consequence
For the husband to successfully deal with repeated challenges to his authority as leader of the home, he has to be prepared to offer a consequence less pleasant than the embarrassment caused by him communicating to his wife that he finds her behavior disrespectful. If telling his wife that she is damaging their marriage through her disrespect is not enough to adjust her behavior, it is time to deliver a less pleasant consequence that will be more likely to cause a positive change.
The consequence you choose as the husband and leader must be one which is effective in changing behavior. Some husbands report success with consequences such as: no use of the family credit card for a period of time; no “girls night out” for a limited period; extra house chores for a limited time; no surfing the internet for a period of time. These “time outs” from social and shopping activities provide much-needed stretches of quite time (often sorely absent in most busy families) where both the husband and wife can relax and spend time together investing in their marriage. Obviously, banning the weekly “girls night out” will not prove too effective if the wife doesn’t actually enjoy being out with her girlfriends and prefers to spend a quiet evening at home. It is essential for the husband to choose a consequence that matches the offense and the personality of the wife.
Since this blog is devoted to unearthing and understanding the secrets of successful old-fashioned marriages, the most obvious old-fashioned (and unpleasant) consequence cannot be ignored. Have you noticed how respectful and loving the partners in old fashioned marriages are towards each other? Have you noticed how they speak kindly to each other? Have you noticed how they seem to enjoy touching each other? How is that kind of tolerance and desire possible when you can see that the individuals do annoying things that would drive you crazy? If you like a challenge and want to explore this further on your own, don’t continue to read this post. Simply spend some time investigating why the couples who claim to be old fashioned and have been married for decades still seem so in-love and happy to be around each other, and you will likely learn something that may shock you.
Many old fashioned marriages share one common consequence for wives who disrespect or disobey their husbands: good, old fashioned spanking. That’s right! The husband spanks his beloved wife as a punishment for her choices and as a deterrent from repeating the behavior that threatens the integrity of the marriage. This course of action has a politically correct name: domestic discipline. In marital domestic discipline, the wife submits to the authority of her husband, and accepts corporal punishment of his choosing when her husband deems it necessary.
Isn’t this an outrage? What right does a husband have to discipline his wife? Those are topics we will explore in other posts, so we won’t digress now. Whether or not a husband is entitled to tan his wife’s naughty, naked butt is not nearly as captivating an idea as the fact that this “barbaric” act seems to serve as part of the superglue that keeps old fashioned marriages together decades after the marriage vows were exchanged. If spanking is one of the hidden secrets of strong marriages, then its time to bring this secret out into the open for further analysis. What do you think?