17 May 2012
Husbands as Heroes: Courageous
The most obvious call for courage occurs when the authority of the husband is challenged. As the leader in the marriage and the home, the husband has authority over his wife and his children. But possessing authority as the man of the home does not automatically mean every member of the family will respect that authority. Authority will be challenged from time to time, and when it is, the husband will need courage to deal with the situation.
What do these challenges to the husband's authority look like? The challenges take a variety of forms, from the sweet and subtle to the bad and blatant. A few examples include:
The wife may focus attention on the husband's weaknesses as the leader in order to rattle his confidence and distract him from defending his position.
The wife may tell her husband what to do, even though he is the one in charge.
The wife may critize her husband's ideas and instructions, and go as far as telling him that he is stupid or incapable of leading.
The wife may pretend she hasn't heard the instructions of her husband, so she can't be held accountable for following those instructions.
The wife may blatantly disobey the husband, and refuse to do what he asks in a face-to-face confrontation.
When the wife disregards the authority of her husband, he can do one of two things: He can walk away, bury his hurt, and pretend it didn't happen. Or, he can confront the assault on his authority. If the husband is to become the hero of his wife, he has no choice but the do the latter. A hero doesn't run and hide. A hero doesn't pretend there is no danger to his marriage when his authority is under attack. A hero recognizes the danger and STILL stands his ground. The heroic husband deals with challenges to his authority, even when it takes him well out of his comfort zone.