tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.comments2023-03-30T08:03:00.944-05:00Old Fashioned MarriageOld Fashioned Marriagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09241184643141521461noreply@blogger.comBlogger392125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-58216514448099198372018-01-23T14:35:04.589-06:002018-01-23T14:35:04.589-06:00I'd like to add my two cents even though this ...I'd like to add my two cents even though this discussion is older. I do not agree or disagree with what 123Willow wrote In "the old days" there were different times and mindsets.<br />I truly believe,in some of our cases, spankings did deter divorces. But we women can really get out of line and my proof is how we treat each other, Catty, Gossping, fickle? Ring any bells, ladies?<br />I'm eighty years old and my wonderful husband passed fourteen years ago. Twenty one years ago I found at age fifty nine I was still not too old to be taken over his lap for a very sound very bare behind correction! It was not once but actually two times that year and I remember them well because they were sound enough to remember and I was so shocked at still getting a spanking after approximately seven years of not needing one.I went almost or just over a year of marriage ( I was married at age twenty one) before my first trip over his lap. A shocking but well deserved discovery!<br /> I'd come to find it wasn't always a secret nor was it a rarity. Not every wife got spankings but I surely did as did some of the other women I knew including my older sister. (Never heard anything from my younger)<br />Accepted? Heck yeah! I was about twenty four, married three years and spent the day over at my parents. I complained about my husband repeatedly. Mother gave some good advice and experiential wisdom including "stop complaining and don't air your personal matters to others." I'd been whining to my sisters and Mother knew it. I wasn't listening or taking her advice, I wanted to complain. <br />My husband picked me up. Just prior to leaving Mother let my husband know that I "needed paddling." I was angry and let her know it! She quickly said I was lucky she wasn't taking her belt to me herself.<br />My told my husband of our my behavior. He thanked her telling her he'd take care of things. He took my waist told me to apologize to Mother.<br />She didn't see it but he'd lightly patted my rear end. I obeyed.The ride home was fine but I figured there was a good chance I might be getting it soon. Well at home the front door was barely shut before my husband put his foot onto the stairs, put me over his knee and spanked me soundly right in the foyer! I cried, and learned my lesson but still went upstairs and got the hairbrush on a bare bottom.<br />Lucky the front door had been closed, but I both heard my neighbor get a spanking once and she'd heard me get it.<br />We had friends at the Country Club and some of those wives still got it at home.<br />In exchanging stories we'd hear or say to each other things such as; "Oh if I did that (Insert our husband's name here) would give it to me good. I remember one gal saying "she'd be over Bill's knee everyday for a week" if she did such and such.<br />And in her case it was probably true as we knew pretty well that she received spankings frequently. She could be a handful around us so we could only imagine her at her home.<br />I rarely admitted to being disciplined but at times you could just gather when something occurred, especially if it was shortly before meeting the others.<br />We did have one woman who'd moved up from the South, she seemed to boast about her escapades and the spankings she got for them. She was fine with getting her behind blistered as long as she was getting what she wanted. Example, She came to lunch with a beautiful new mink wrap,She adored it. But she "guaranteed" us "Randolph (her husband) was going to take his belt to her for a good whooping when he saw it later.I don't know if her culture was different but we all kind of didn't understand her "bragging rights" so to speak.<br />She left that day and one of us joked, "Well there she goes, off to get her whooping!" in a southern drawl.<br />We were good girls for the most part and perhaps spanking saved our marriages. Thanks for letting me share,<br />Penelope C. <br />We<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-61879873934921520762016-06-03T18:07:50.871-05:002016-06-03T18:07:50.871-05:00I just told my husband today that I fell like I ne...I just told my husband today that I fell like I need a good spanking I believe it will straighten my behavior out I am a bit of a bitch and tend to not think before I speak so we agreed that tonight I will get my first adult spanking to start with my behavioral issues I'm kind of scared but I know I need it .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-15719920683030291632016-04-07T04:07:39.600-05:002016-04-07T04:07:39.600-05:00Women commonly claim being spanked MAKES them subm...Women commonly claim being spanked MAKES them submissive. Even being traditionally positioned is a humbling experience. It is an all but guaranteed cure for a woman's vanity. <br /><br />A woman's ability to endure pain can be easily overcome by using an appropriate high-sting implement. Decades ago, a grandmother advised merely seeing a switch in a man's hand makes a woman respect him. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-70245084137539812482016-04-04T05:50:44.135-05:002016-04-04T05:50:44.135-05:00While I admittedly don't know what the upper l...While I admittedly don't know what the upper limit is, I know from firsthand experience that a woman can be successfully spanked on her bare bottom into her 60s and even 70s. My wife still cries and says being made to stand red bottomed in the corner afterwards is just as embarrassing as it was when she was a girl. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-33493861449271342932016-04-04T05:40:47.510-05:002016-04-04T05:40:47.510-05:00First spankings work best when couples are still m...First spankings work best when couples are still madly in love. Nor is merely spanking effective with all women. <br /><br />To this day, I regret not spanking my wife with a hairbrush on our wedding night. Even my wife admits it would have solved a lot of problems. <br /><br />Having come of age before spanking became controversial, my mother-in-law had introduced her daughter's backside to a hairbrush years earlier in a story my wife told while we were dating. I should have taken the hint. <br /><br />Although I thought about the hairbrush, through no fault of our own, things had not gone as planned during the wedding. It was a big production more for the benefit of her parents than for us. Likewise, our honeymoon had to be aborted because of complications beyond our control. <br /><br />Besides, being young and naive at the time, I honestly thought I'd corrected my wife's behaviors when we were dating. After all, with her permission, I'd disciplined my then teenage girlfriend before we married. <br /><br />Because of my initial failures, I wound up giving my wife first of several marital spankings during that first summer of our marriage. Eventually, my wife confessed she requited paddling rather than spanking. As it turned out, much of her frustration arose because she was enduring spankings rather than having a sore bottom remind her to behave! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-28025250083743859852016-04-04T04:03:20.673-05:002016-04-04T04:03:20.673-05:00Much of the above describes a psychological condit...Much of the above describes a psychological condition known as narcissistic personality disorder. More simply put, these are women inclined to think the world revolves around them. Although the precise transfer mechanism is poorly understood, narcissistic personality disorder tends to run in families. <br /><br />Women afflicted with narcissistic personality disorder often intentionally seek out weak men for partners. If the husband married to a narcissistic wife does not straighten out his wife early in their marriage, not only will she eventually make his life miserable, she will undermine their children's self-respect as well. <br /><br />Another problem that may especially affect younger couples might be best described as delayed teenage rebellion. <br /><br />Anyone familiar with raising a teenage daughter is aware there comes a time in the girl's life when she challenges parental authority. Some parents avoid this naturally occurring developmental phase through bribery rather than disciplining. <br /><br />Subsequently, problems develop in marriage because the young woman's husband is seldom able to afford to spoil the wife as her father had done. If this happens, instead of rebelling against her parents, the young woman acts out in front of her frequently bewildered husband. <br /><br />When a husband is confronted by a immature wife, especially one from a relatively affluent background behaving like a spoiled brat early in their marriage, the husband should seriously consider giving his wife the spanking of her life with an old-fashioned wooden hairbrush or doubled leather belt. By the time the husband is through with his wife, she should be worn out psychologically and drained physically. <br /><br />In these cases, the real issue is less how many birthdays the wife has celebrated than her behavioral maturity. <br /><br />A similar problem can arise in cases of second marriage. Quite often in these cases, the wife picks up with her second husband where she left off with her first. If not nipped in the bud, this will cause the second marriage to end much like the first. Husbands unable to handle these situations explain why second and third marriages are more likely to end in divorce than are first marriages. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-61783814813739129102016-04-04T03:12:32.361-05:002016-04-04T03:12:32.361-05:00Decades ago, as my wife stood naked before me befo...Decades ago, as my wife stood naked before me before submitting to a paddling, I asked her why women don't run from a promised spanking. Her very concise answer was a woman is feels more secure when a man takes control of her life. <br /><br />My wife also said spanking works best when it is accompanied by dialogue. Among the other things I discovered was my lap served as my wife's confessional booth. During the first few years of our marriage, she revealed every dark secret lurking in her soul. It was as if taking off her clothes she also pulled back the veil of her feminine mystique. <br /><br />By listening to my wife, instead of merely imposing my will on her, I was able to help her get rid of a lot of mental garbage had accumulated from her youth. Among my wife's biggest psychological dumps was her good girl facade. Much of it had been pure pretense.<br /><br />Being paddled, and sometimes whipped, likewise forced my wife to look more deeply into her inner being than had been otherwise possible. Quite literally, her anguish and tears cleaned her out. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-10954200392684210882016-04-03T00:09:47.018-05:002016-04-03T00:09:47.018-05:00One way to think about spanking is as a form of ma...One way to think about spanking is as a form of marriage repair. The workbench is the husband's lap. Baring the necessary area of the wife's anatomy simply part of the preparation. A belt, paddle, or switch is merely a necessary tool for doing the job properly. <br /><br />Much like other repairs done around the house, marriage repair seldom occurs at a convenient time. Likewise, marital repair is seldom fun. Nevertheless, there are times when, no matter what else needs to be done, the marriage must be repaired immediately. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-59905869935831296052016-04-02T07:04:33.514-05:002016-04-02T07:04:33.514-05:00CONTINUED
Sometimes, as in the case of characters...CONTINUED<br /><br />Sometimes, as in the case of characters portrayed by Patrick Wayne and Stefanie Powers, the young woman's parents were aware their daughter was being or had been spanked by a young man. As had been the case with my future in-laws after finding out I'd spanked their daughter on a date, most parents didn't interfere. Young couples were expected to work out their problems. Before becoming so controversial, a good old-fashioned panties to the knees spanking was merely one way of doing that. <br /><br />Likewise, as occurred at the end of the movie, when John Wayne handed the coal shovel to Patrick Wayne, young couples were advised to allow the young man exercise his authority early in the premarital relationship. This is was an example of a father transferring authority over his daughter to her future husband. While my father-in-law never did so officially, my wife said, as a firm believer in spanking the fairer sex, her father probably have approved of my finally taking a switch to her bare bottom! <br /><br />One reason for premarital spanking was to get that sometimes awkward first skirt up and panties down spanking. While there is no way of knowing for sure, I have every reason to believe more women in 1950s, and even in the 1960s, were spanked with switches than is the case these days. <br /><br />One reason was, not only were switches commonly used by mothers for discreetly disciplining their daughters, they were silent but deadly to a young woman's pride. Applied to her exposed thighs, their sting was virtually guaranteed to bring even a stubborn woman to tears. <br /><br />While most young men started out spanking their girlfriends of wives with their hand, they quickly realized what the young woman's mother already knew. Most women actually need a paddling or whipping to make them behave! <br /><br />It is also important to remember that the term "domestic discipline" didn't exist before the 1970s. Neither was spanking a "lifestyle." Instead, "spanking," as it was known, was seen as preferable to perpetual bickering or divorce. <br /><br />Also, reasons for spanking were much simpler before the the notion of absolute equality between the sexes. While punishment and erotic spankings haven't changed much over the years, other reasons tended to be lumped into a broad category that was often explained by mothers saying, "Because you need one, Young Lady." <br /><br />Generally, this catchall reason encompassed those situations where, although no specific misbehavior occurred, "something needed to be done" about a woman's attitude or behavior before it developed into a more serious problem. <br /><br />The bottom line of all of the above is that, although descriptions have changed over the decades and couples tend to be less open about their practices, husbands and wives from a century ago would instantly recognize today's "domestic disciplining" as old-fashioned spanking or whipping. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-80073922550052707882016-04-02T07:00:46.349-05:002016-04-02T07:00:46.349-05:00Having been part of that generation born in the sh...Having been part of that generation born in the shadow of World War II, I suspect there was actually less spanking in relationships back then than there is these days. <br /><br />Perhaps the biggest reason was young women either were or knew they could be spanked by their parents if they got an attitude or misbehaved. Calling the cops didn't do any good. In many places before the 1970s, parental spanking, paddling, or whipping of a 20-year-old daughter's bare bottom was perfectly legal. On a practical level, when cohabitation was known as "shacking up," daughters were sometimes subject to being spanked by their parents until they married. <br /><br />Much the same thing was true for wives. Although perhaps not technically legal, "wife spanking" was considered to be a "family matter" rather than abuse. In many ways, "wife spanking" was a continuation of a daughter's adolescent disciplining. Like a lot of young men in my day, I picked up disciplining my wife "where her parents left off." <br /><br />It started shortly after my wife and I began dating. Realizing we were in love, one of our early discussions was about spanking. In those days, because the practice so widespread, it wasn't that unusual for a young woman to tell her boyfriend how got spanked. <br /><br />Consequently, much like a couple of my high school girlfriends, my wife told me how she had to take her spankings. It wasn't just a nuts and bolts description. Those experiences were typical. <br /><br />Where my wife differed was in admitted being thoroughly embarrassed a few months earlier when her father announced in their living room that he was going to spank her for talking back to him. She described the shame of having to pull down her pants and go over her father's lap then and there for a bare ass blistering with his belt. <br /><br />While women were seldom beaten black and blue, some incidental bruising of a disciplined female's backside was permissible. When this happened, it usually raised more questions about what the woman did than what her husband or her parents did about it! Sometimes, spanking of a female's derriere was expected. <br /><br />A good insight into attitudes of the day can be gleaned from watching the 1963 John Wayne movie McLintock! While popular culture pays excessive attention to John Wayne's climatic spanking of Maureen O'Hara, the real lesson is in Patrick Wayne's spanking of Stefanie Powers even before their roll in the hay. <br /><br />Back then, it was not uncommon for young men to begin over the knee bride training before marriage. In many ways, compatibility in spanking back then was a lot like sexual compatibility these days. <br /><br />TO BE CONTINUEDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-44796030396107179102016-02-24T07:28:17.684-06:002016-02-24T07:28:17.684-06:00I don't know. I find this all too serious. For...I don't know. I find this all too serious. For me spanking is just erotic and my wife does it to me. I'm not a submissive or anything like that but it sure is erotic.Tony Conradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02346695322947517602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-43044563274650342012015-11-20T07:50:52.582-06:002015-11-20T07:50:52.582-06:00Maybe it was a fantasy or maybe it was wife beatin...Maybe it was a fantasy or maybe it was wife beating in the wrong sex. Today some of us have fun spanking in our marriages which are only to do with sex. Much better in my opinion.Tony Conradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02346695322947517602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-58135106359082985722015-10-29T23:58:50.345-05:002015-10-29T23:58:50.345-05:00Decades ago, an elderly widow told a story about a...Decades ago, an elderly widow told a story about a provocative spinster getting spanked with a switch by her much younger brother. The old woman's point was women don't get too old to be spanked by a man. Age is irrelevant. It was a lesson I took to heart. <br /><br />All these many years later, my wife is now older than the widow was back then. Occasionally my wife will hint, as women sometimes do, that the time has come to put her bare bottomed over my knee and straighten her out. <br /><br />At other times, especially if I believe she's too wound up, I'll take her to the bedroom. When this happens, she knows to bare her bottom and get over my knee, or else she'll get spanked with a belt! <br /><br />While I don't claim to know the upper age limit, I do know women can take moderate bare bottom spankings with a man's hand or small strap through their 60s and into their 70s. It still hurts and they still cry much like they did as young women. <br /><br />The most comfortable positioning for a mature woman is straddling the man's thigh when he's seated on a bed. The man wraps his non-spanking hand around her waist as her torso is supported by the bed. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-60765923965894725052015-08-14T23:23:57.298-05:002015-08-14T23:23:57.298-05:00This was a really great article you've written...This was a really great article you've written.<br />After 20 years of marriage and though I still can't say I'm really used to it, like it or not, I've been spanked soundly at least a few times. I now realize, especially after reading lots of feedback on the net, that I'm lucky it hasn't been more often. <br />My husband recently saw me becoming testy, argumentative and I know I was getting just downright ornery and sassy. after I snapped at him once too many times in a row and I was quite aware of it and finally caught myself, I apologized and saw how he looked at me. My husband's facial reaction was priceless when I was the one who asked, "maybe it's time for more than a verbal discussion?" (This was usually his line which is generally followed by discipline shortly thereafter.) Long story short, I told him I agreed (finally!) that his firm attention toward me would probably do the trick and help alleviate whatever tensions I was having. I was spanked with his hand then to tears with the brush. We cuddled tightly for a long time afterward and yes I felt much better internally afterward. They even saw and commented at work how I seemed much more lighter or easy going. (Don't think they realized I was sitting on a cushion at my desk.) That was about four weeks ago. Last week I sassed off to my husband outside at our pool as I headed inside to get sunscreen which he'd reminded me twice already to put on. Much to my surprise he's not waiting long anymore now that I've realized the benefits of his care and correction of me. He was almost right behind me when I came inside and as far as tanning, well my hide was tanned good and not by the sun! Any of my bottom that was peeking out of my cute bathing suit was bright red when I returned poolside. Yes I apologized and I'm on my best now.<br />Jill<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-39541699773931969302015-03-08T03:38:46.268-05:002015-03-08T03:38:46.268-05:00Both my wife and I grew up when husbands could sti...Both my wife and I grew up when husbands could still spank their wives with relative impunity. Unlike today, it wasn't a lifestyle. Rather it was a way for couples to privately resolve marital problems at a time when divorce was still unacceptable and professional marriage counseling was still in its infancy. <br /><br />According to some overheard snippets I picked up in my youth, it didn't happen all that often. Most of the time there seems to have very little planning a head of time. A woman might be warned. Then, if the wife persisted, at some point her husband would take her aside and straighten her out. So far as I know, it was never done in front of the children. Nor did women make a big scene. Rather the wife took it like a woman.<br /><br />When I was probably 4 or 5-years-old, my mother got into it with my father in our back hall. Normally a patient man, he took my mother into an adjacent bedroom and shut the door. There wasn't any shouting. My father never raised his voice. Neither could I hear my mother say anything. Despite a lack of telltale sounds, something told me my mother was getting a spanking. <br /><br />Although the events I witnessed were spellbinding, memorable, and probably contributed to my interest in spanking, they weren't traumatizing. My sense of childhood justice concluded my mother got spanked for throwing a temper tantrum. Perhaps one reason was I'd seen the girl my age next door get a spanking from her mother for engaging in a similar behavior. <br /><br />Several minutes later, my father came out of the bedroom. He went into the basement. A little while later, my mother emerged. She had what may be best described as an embarrassed look on her face. Without a word, she went into the kitchen. That night at supper, they both seemed perfectly normal. <br /><br />Years later, my mother told me that wives sometimes got spanked by their husbands. By that time, that was something already knew. One of my friends had come across one of his father's mens magazines. In it was an article claiming that sometimes women what a man to spank them. A girl in the neighborhood said her mother admitted having to also take a spanking from her daughter's father they both disobeyed him. <br /><br />The best insight I received came from the mother of one of my friends one summer. She was supposed to take us swimming at a state park. Normally this fun loving mom went swimming with us. Only this time she didn't bring her bathing suit. When her son asked her why, she snapped that it was none of his his business. After a few moments of refection she added softly in one of those moments of absolute honesty, "Okay, since I expect you to tell the truth; I've got marks; I got spanked." Her memorable admission defined spanking during my youth. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-9119330642356990932015-02-06T19:58:12.768-06:002015-02-06T19:58:12.768-06:00During a discussion about spanking many decades ag...During a discussion about spanking many decades ago, a grandmother in her 70s said women don't get too old to spank. While I don't know the upper age limit, I know healthy women in their 60s and 70s can still be spanked on their bare bottoms without causing any lasting damage. It hurts and they still cry just like women one third their age. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-24966589686681225642014-10-31T01:20:35.960-05:002014-10-31T01:20:35.960-05:00As with sex, every generation thinks it invented s...As with sex, every generation thinks it invented spanking in interpersonal relationships. They didn't. When I was in my late preteens, I came across an article in a men's magazine claiming women wanted to be spanked. That was in the mid-1950s! Also, most women of that era knew better than to be disrespectful. According to family lore, my aunt got a spanking over her husband's knee for disrespecting her mother. That impromptu spanking was reportedly administered in presence of my grandmother. <br /><br />During a discussion about how attitudes changed after the 1960s, a woman old enough to be my grandmother admitted she'd been spanked by her father after she was married. When we were dating, my then almost 20-year-old girlfriend wound up getting spanked with her father's belt for smart mouthing him. Despite her professed embarrassment, I later found out that she actually approved of a badly behaved woman being blistered bare bottom over a man's knee. <br /><br />Only the past few decades, spanking has assumed an explicitly sexual connotation that was not nearly as pronounced as it was only a few generations ago. The first I spanked by wife when we were still dating, it was more like spanking my sister. I was less interested in seeing her with her pants down than I was in straightening her out. It turned out, although she didn’t relish my taking off my belt, she would have been disappointed if I hadn't spanked her bare bottom. She later admitted she respected me for embarrassing her when she deserved it. What she didn't tell me was that she was comparing my spanking to the one her father gave her! She admitted that both made her want to behave.<br /><br />Another change between then and now is that "domestic discipline," a phrase that didn't even exist until well my wife and I were married and became parents, is a considered to be a lifestyle. Back when I was growing up, it was simply known as spanking. The female's age was irrelevant. It was her behavior that mattered. <br /><br />I also suspect that switches were more commonly used to whip wives of yesteryear. For one thing, they were free and relevantly plentiful before mass urbanization. Although I never thought too much about it until decades later, I remember there was a large "switch bush" beside the porch that ran three-quarters of the way around my maternal great grandparents' two-story Victorian. In fact, my great grandmother called it the "switch bush." When I was a kid, I thought they were only used to discipline her brood of children. However, either by design or by chance, the bush just happened located beside her bedroom! <br /><br />I didn't think much about my great grandparents' "switch bush" until we were visiting my wife's parents early in our marriage. They lived on a large farm in a house remarkably similar in design to that of my great grandparents. While it didn't have a wraparound porch with a "switch bush" next to it, there was a rather large display of untrimmed shrubbery beside the milk house a few feet from one of the kitchen doors.<br /><br />At the time, like many newly marrieds, we were trying to adjust to living together. Once, while visiting my wife’s parents, my wife and I needed to come to what her mother called an "understanding." In my mother-in-law's vocabulary, as determined by the tense of the preceding verbs, that meant her daughter either had been or would be spanked with the maternal hairbrush! <br /><br />Not wishing to embarrass my wife, I decided to whip her with a switch. After telling my wife that it was up to her whether or not her parents heard her getting disciplined, I whipped her bare bottom until she was suitably submissive. When we rejoined her parents, my wife was thoroughly charming and delightful to be around. So far as I know, my in-laws were totally oblivious to their daughter's disciplining.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-49536943966081490832014-08-25T08:30:13.357-05:002014-08-25T08:30:13.357-05:00Nicely written. Iam from India and dd is very comm...Nicely written. Iam from India and dd is very common in our set up, though it is decreasing now. I feel it is one of the reasons for long marriages here. However I don't practice it as I don't think my wife would go well with it. We practice erotic spanking though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-42350453651025652482013-10-08T19:28:01.918-05:002013-10-08T19:28:01.918-05:00Thanks for breaking the spanking types down. It&#...Thanks for breaking the spanking types down. It's hard when one partner (me) knows spanking is a need and my husband see's it only for fun.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-61863204823722546482013-09-28T23:33:08.484-05:002013-09-28T23:33:08.484-05:00I'm not against spankings, if the choice is en...I'm not against spankings, if the choice is entered into consensually, but saying spankings of wives in "the old days" prevented divorce is just plain ignorant. People didn't divorce because they were more isolated & therefore less tempted. People didn't divorce because people died younger & they didn't have time to learn to hate each other. People didn't divorce because each member of s family had to actively perform chores to keep body & soul together. I don't believe there ever was "good old days"; it's just a matter of the grass being greener on the other side.123Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269034689523389514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-65742952053177957922013-09-21T21:29:43.308-05:002013-09-21T21:29:43.308-05:00I used to resent being spanked, and would show it...I used to resent being spanked, and would show it by acting out. Rolling my eyes,a sarcastic expression, some smart comment murmured under my breath. Probably the wrong sort of dialogue, if you honestly believe that discipline shouldn't be one way communication. When you pull your pants back up nothing was really resolved even if i did ensure up in tearsi did end up tears After discussing my attitude issues with Knute, i agreed to try it his way a few times. What's his way? No talking except possibly to answer a question with "yes sir or no sir"; polite expression and tone of voice at all times. And of course getting my pants off immediately when told. That's all. No rocket science involved. And i have to admit things go much better now. Neither of us is left with the feeling afterward that it wasn't "finished" when he gave me permission to pull them back up. I still disagree - mentally, silently, with about 1/3 of my spankings at the start. I don't think that will ever change. But remaining polite and immediately following instructions has carried over into my general attitude toward him, and 90% of the little things i used to brood about in our relationship are off the table. My contribution to the dialogue of spanking is no longer "talking back" silently. I accept his decision as final and avoid making it a challenge to his role as head of household.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-38901944483947133492013-09-21T21:29:34.850-05:002013-09-21T21:29:34.850-05:00I used to resent being spanked, and would show it...I used to resent being spanked, and would show it by acting out. Rolling my eyes,a sarcastic expression, some smart comment murmured under my breath. Probably the wrong sort of dialogue, if you honestly believe that discipline shouldn't be one way communication. When you pull your pants back up nothing was really resolved even if i did ensure up in tearsi did end up tears After discussing my attitude issues with Knute, i agreed to try it his way a few times. What's his way? No talking except possibly to answer a question with "yes sir or no sir"; polite expression and tone of voice at all times. And of course getting my pants off immediately when told. That's all. No rocket science involved. And i have to admit things go much better now. Neither of us is left with the feeling afterward that it wasn't "finished" when he gave me permission to pull them back up. I still disagree - mentally, silently, with about 1/3 of my spankings at the start. I don't think that will ever change. But remaining polite and immediately following instructions has carried over into my general attitude toward him, and 90% of the little things i used to brood about in our relationship are off the table. My contribution to the dialogue of spanking is no longer "talking back" silently. I accept his decision as final and avoid making it a challenge to his role as head of household.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-25640735949744912052013-09-21T21:28:38.237-05:002013-09-21T21:28:38.237-05:00I used to resent being spanked, and would show it...I used to resent being spanked, and would show it by acting out. Rolling my eyes,a sarcastic expression, some smart comment murmured under my breath. Probably the wrong sort of dialogue, if you honestly believe that discipline shouldn't be one way communication. When you pull your pants back up nothing was really resolved even if i did ensure up in tearsi did end up tears After discussing my attitude issues with Knute, i agreed to try it his way a few times. What's his way? No talking except possibly to answer a question with "yes sir or no sir"; polite expression and tone of voice at all times. And of course getting my pants off immediately when told. That's all. No rocket science involved. And i have to admit things go much better now. Neither of us is left with the feeling afterward that it wasn't "finished" when he gave me permission to pull them back up. I still disagree - mentally, silently, with about 1/3 of my spankings at the start. I don't think that will ever change. But remaining polite and immediately following instructions has carried over into my general attitude toward him, and 90% of the little things i used to brood about in our relationship are off the table. My contribution to the dialogue of spanking is no longer "talking back" silently. I accept his decision as final and avoid making it a challenge to his role as head of household.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-11305826064249168272013-09-21T20:05:20.189-05:002013-09-21T20:05:20.189-05:00I understood the concept of a tension relieving sp...I understood the concept of a tension relieving spanking even though i didn't know it was called that until i read this article. Being told to pull your pants down unexpectedly, especially when you KNOW youve done nothing specifically wrong is a straightforward way to share some physical and emotional intimacy. Knowing that its NOT foreplay is part of what makes it so engaging. You may not have time or the inclination for actual lovemaking if your headed out to supper with friends or on your way to the movies. But that doesn't mean you can't take 5 or 10 minutes to get your pulse up and a little breathless. I'm usually inclined to giggle in relief afterwards even if my initial reaction was "Now? Seriously??"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8723628156599645798.post-49028288740106126552013-08-26T04:31:50.452-05:002013-08-26T04:31:50.452-05:00That women don't get too old for a spanking wa...That women don't get too old for a spanking was once an open secret. Today, although both my wife and I are of the geriatric generation, I still spank her bare bottom when she becomes difficult. A bare bottom spanking today is just as effect today as it was when my wife was my then teenage girlfriend. Of course, like most young women of her generation, my wife got spanked a few times by her father when she was in her late teens. As a result, the idea of a disciplinarian possibly "seeing everything" was a normal part of getting spanked in those days. So, too, was marrying with the explicit understanding that a wife would be spanked! <br /><br />Typically, after we got married, these spankings were administered in the bedroom with me seated on the edge of the bed. Early in our marriage, my wife would lay across my lap with her feet on the floor and her upper body on the bed. Even though my wife had been trained by her parents to take a spanking, sometimes that positioning proved awkward. <br /><br />For the past several decades, we've used positioning sometimes known as over the lap facing backwards. More accurately, bare at least from her waist down, my wife straddles my left thigh before getting spanked with my right hand. Relatively speaking, my wife admits she finds this position far more comfortable trying to take a spanking over my lap. She also says that it is more personal than having to bend over a bed with her panties down - which is how her parents paddled her when she was growing up. <br /><br />Although my wife admitted eons ago that it took paddling rather than spanking to really get her attention, we retired the paddle shortly after my wife went through menopause. Since then, she's only had a few serious spankings. Among the more memorable was for turning into a bridezilla by proxy on the day before our daughter got married. Even though only a bathroom separated our bedroom from that occupied by wedding guests, my wife didn't argue when she saw me take off my belt after telling her to take off her clothes. As my mother used to phrase it, "She took her whipping like a woman." <br /><br />Based on my experience, I advised husbands with older wives to spank them when their behavior becomes problematic. It's still just as effective as it was when they were young women. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com